Crowded Loneliness | Margin KC | Randy Frazee

The Problem: Crowded Loneliness

  • The average suburban family manages 35 separate worlds

  • Linear Friendships - The people in one world, don’t know the people in the other worlds.

  • Commuting: For every 10 minutes you spend in an automobile, you reduce your available social capital by 10%.

An American Disease - Crowded Loneliness

The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Genesis 2:18

The Solution: Trading Lines for a Circle

Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.

Ephesians 5:15 ESV

  • Get more people into your circle who not only know you but know each other.

  • Draw a one-mile radius around your house and do as much living in that circle as you can

  • Get into or form a small group with fellow Christians who live within this radius.

  • Eliminate a few circles

  • Trade events for more walks & time on the front porch

Discussion Questions:

1. What does a life of real simplicity mean to you? If you were to become successful at simplifying your life, what would you be doing – and maybe more importantly, what wouldn’t you be doing?

2. Discuss the difference between “loneliness” and “crowded loneliness.” Which of these do you have a tendency to struggle with more?

3. Look at the drawing you made of your relational worlds. Are your separate relational worlds keeping you from deeper, more satisfying relationships? What steps can you take to address this?

4. Identify one personal action step you can take toward adopting a life of real simplicity.

I 💙 My Church | Because It Changes Lives | Randy Frazee

For you created my inmost being;

you knit me together in my mother’s womb.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;

your works are wonderful,

I know that full well.

My frame was not hidden from you

when I was made in the secret place,

when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.

Your eyes saw my unformed body;

all the days ordained for me were written in your book

before one of them came to be.

Psalm 139:13-16

There are Four Basic Personality Types


Strengths– Visionary, practical, productive, strong-willed, independent, decisive, leader

Weaknesses– Cold, domineering, unemotional self-sufficient, unforgiving, sarcastic, cruel


Strengths– Outgoing, responsive, warm, friendly, talkative, enthusiastic, compassionate

Weaknesses– Undisciplined, unproductive, exaggerates, egocentric, unstable

Golden Retriever :

Strengths– Calm, easy-going, dependable, quiet, objective, diplomatic, humorous

Weaknesses– Selfish, stingy, procrastinator, unmotivated, indecisive, fearful, worrier


Strengths– Analytical, self-disciplined, industrious, organized, aesthetic, sacrificing

Weaknesses– Moody, self-centered, touchy, negative, unsociable, critical, revengeful

Which one are you?

Who you hang out with is the biggest determining factor in your character.

Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”

1 Corinthians 15:33

I love my church because it changes lives


Come to Westside, we want you here!

Come to Westside, we need you here!

Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it.

Matthew 10:39

Serve according to your shape:

Spiritual Gifts





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I 💙 My Church | Because We Belong Here | Randy Frazee

Benefits of going to Church:

Drink less

Smoke less

Use fewer recreational drugs

Less sexually promiscuous

Stronger Marriages

Boost Immune System

Healthier Cardiovascular

Decreases Blood Pressure

Sleep better

Teens do better in school


Live longer

Stronger Support Network

I Love My Church because we belong here

God hardwired us for community

“It is not good for the man to be alone.”

Genesis 2:18

The Church is a Family

God has given us the privilege of being born again so that we are now members of God’s own family (1 Peter 3:1)

God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure. (Ephesians 1:5)

Even before you or I were even born God’s vision was to provide the way to adopt us into his family through Christ. It gave him great pleasure.

A healthy Family helps you to take a Next Steps

And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,  not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the day approaching.

Hebrews 10:24-25

The people of Kansas City need more Margin

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